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I second that emotion of the Urban Goddess! I too, am a conscientious objector to the Gender War!
I've had my share of issues with men who just don't know better. I even poke fun, on occasion. Yep, you're from Mars. So glad you're not from Pluto. You know place isn't a planet anymore! But I wouldn't have it any other way. Guys! Keep doing those things ya'll do. With the things ya'll do it with. You know? Pheromones and testosterone. There are some healthy sisters out here that appreciate you, and love you just the way you are!
Please! Click Here to read this fabulous article "Men: Why I Love You" by Robyn Lark Wakefield. It would look like plagiarism is I wrote what I think and feel about men! Tell your friends to read it!
And for my few Mom in Apt 10b friends.. This should help explain why I suddenly - overnight.. quite literally.. went from being "The Mom in Apt 10b" to "The Goddess in Apt. 10b." I was exploring online last night. Looking for some soul food. Found all sorts of good stuff! I feel like Lisa Burke did from The Secret. It's all coming together quite beautifully, now.
I just me, and I just love you, too!
Many Blessings,
Jackie
aka..
We all know it is the content of a man's character that speaks the most about who he is.. not the color of his skin. Right? Well.. Many people do have preferences that outrank character..
I'm personally one who is open to loving a man of any race, but I do prefer Black men. As a Black woman, in my mind, historically and spiritually, the Black man truly reigns. For better or worst, Black men have a definite sex appeal. It's not about the brother's johnson, it's about his Soul's Code. And I believe there are some things only a Black woman can teach and provide for a Black man.. who wants it. But if he doesn't want it.. Too bad, too sad.. His loss! A good man is a good man no matter his race!
First, I'll tell you the race of men I've dated Brits (anglo), Spaniards, Dominicans, Puerto Ricans, average American White Boys (from Wisconsin to Texas to Kentucky), Africans, and African Americans. In my wildest fantasy.. the man of my wildest dreams is Latino. Cuban, to be exact. Ask me no questions I'll tell you no lies!
But what's the deal with any woman desiring a man of another race? I would say that a thoughtful spiritual woman will tell you something like this...
- He's a teacher. Ultimately, he is a self-study program. He will teach you various aspects of yourself you didn't even know existed. How you perceive and behave toward men - changes after you've been in an interracial relationship. And it's in your own head that you haven't. Everyone else will notice.
- He puts you on a spiritual path. In Black and White terms.. your relationship will stress application rather than theory, and experience rather than theology. All you have to do is follow his lead and you can obtain the goal of peace and harmony ad infinitum. In the end, it'll either last or it won't. Basically, what I'm saying is.. at first there will be this subtle struggle because of race/culture differences. Face it. Don't deny it! You can pretend you don't notice them, others will teach you it's true. Then.. you decide to handle things, ignore differences.. and integrate him into you. Becoming one with him will make you more like him.
- He dictates rules of behavior. I've observed that it's usually the woman that can't keep doing whatever she's been doing once she gets with a man of another race. The man does not change his behavior because he's with you, but his meaning changes because he's with you. He becomes the WHY.. you've changed what you're doing. He's worth it to you. Along with your new perspective, it's not unusual that your ways and even your external circumstances change.
- He's a beautiful communion of universal erotic themes. And more than that, he is a fusion of sexuality and spirituality. Sexuality and spirituality have often been at cross-purpose-- each terrified of the other. An interracial relationship, however, breathes new life into the finest ideas of sacred eroticism.. delivering its own message. Just look at the babies of an interracial union.
- He gives you immediate results. One interracial relationship (not sexual encounter -but a pure relationship) will change you. Your day, your feelings, your life, your experiences. Who doesn't want to change like that? It's fun to explore the stereotypes and unknowns. Right away you get more out of it than you ever imagined!
... is that he's remained silent while others have been speaking.
Tiger Woods hasn't tried to interrupt. He's let everybody talk as long as they want to. The more willing he seems to let the media (and others) express themselves about him and his personal situation, the more completely he seems to be misunderstood. I think his silence has bought him time to be honest and open, but he should stick to doing whatever he's going to do about his private little mess.. in his own time, in his own way.
Our parents tried to teach us.. sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt us? It seems to me that the media is determined to beat the shit out of him and his recovery -from whatever it is that he's recovering from.
I just heard on CNN that Tiger is orchestrating a press conference or public statement tomorrow morning... "Just in time for the Masters." The reporter spoke in an undertone and with much innuendo about the logistics and his timing. What better time?!! The man's THE preeminent golfer of our time! What is he supposed to do? Disappear and NOT play any more golf!? If I'm not mistaken, 4,690 people to date, have fought and died in Operation Iraqi Freedom -alone! For EVERYBODY's freedom! -- Even the freedom to make mistakes and recover from them with a little bit of dignity and with even less condemnation. Especially here in this country!! Ooops! I forget. This IS the U.S.A. We have every right to declare a moral stand against this man and anyone else who falls short! He's never asked for anything from anyone.. except for some privacy. This whole thing of ridiculing Tiger Woods is ridiculous!
I heard nobody complaining about his game or behavior on the golf course before his infidelities were exposed. What is this reeeally about? I think we all know.
I don't care how many people claim they'll boycott sponsors.. The game of golf needs Tiger Woods a lot more than he needs it! And that's the truth!
We all make mistakes. You without sin cast the first stone. And please let us know if you break anything so we can forgive YOU, too!
P.S. I am not a Tiger Woods or a golf fan. Just a fan of the pursuit of personal happiness and simple acts of kindness and forgiveness.
I admit, I enjoyed the photo galleries over at Hall of the Black Dragon.. of their favorite Sexy Celebrity Ladies, Models, Adult Starlettes, and that Top 100 Lady Dragons list, is to die for! Wish I was on it! Wow - wee! I figured, why not do a complimentary piece celebrating men? I know what you're thinking: You want to celebrate the status quo? Isn't there already enough in the blogosphere about men? Nope. Besides, much of the news about men is certainly not celebrating them. In fact, most of what I observe is about judging men. Their scandals. Personal attacks. Their infidelities.. Men cause wars. Men are wife-beaters, cheaters, rapists, pedophiles, deadbeats, derelicts and murderers. Men abuse power, are players and losers, and destroy trust, self esteem, confidences, among other things. Well, I'm on a mission to find some male role models to brag about. Most will be eye candy, have tremendous sex appeal, smell fabulous without any additives, and look great in custom made shirts! Why the heck not? This should be fun! Check back.. Oh.. but it definitely won't be a 100 man list! I'll be lucky to find time to profile these...
