Saturday, March 20, 2010

If I'm such a good woman, How come I'm still single?

First thing this morning, I get a call from a way back when.. friend. I hadn’t heard from this friend in maybe a year. He was just checking in on my daughter and I. Shooting the breeze about the weather and some FB photos. Then he asked what they all ask at the very end of the conversation… “When am I getting a wedding invitation?”

Monday, March 15, 2010

Some good slutty boots

With all my talk about my sensuality and sexuality.. I must admit that I am a little hard on shoes.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

The sex appeal of a great head of hair

An overly confident young stylist once stood over me and said.. "You have enough hair on your head for five people!" I only allowed her to trim my ends.

And once an Old School stylist simply refused to cut a mere 3 inches off my hair. Even though I wanted her to. Her philosophy was that since I was blessed with a head of thick long hair, I needed to leave it like that! I kept her for as long as I could. Wish I knew where to find her now! Velmarie Marshall, where are you?!

He Never Listens To Me

The story goes: She's pregnant by Brutus, and yet made several attempts to disclose to Caesar that Brutus is not trustworthy.. Because she knows. And now Caesar is dead by Brutus' hand.. And she wonders.. Could poor dead Caesar know the meaning of those double pink lines on the little white stick?.. Haunting...

Saturday, March 6, 2010

"The Church of Baseball"

To get to the point, queue the video up to 1:24..

Then.. Listen... Learn. It's rated G.

I couldn't have said it better!

Friday, March 5, 2010

Being Sensual

To start with, I would just like to make it clear that I choose to look at my own sensuality as holistic. Meaning, it is all of me not just one aspect of me. Most relate sensuality to sexuality. That's not necessarily true. And as much as I'd like to deny it, being or feeling sensual has impacted all areas of my life. I'm not certain if I was aware of it during early childhood, but certainly since adolescence. The stories I could tell you!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

First comes love, then comes sex.. Or is it the other way around?

What makes a relationship tick? Or another way to ask this question is.. Which comes first? Sex? or Love?

Men need sexual fulfillment in order to respond to a woman emotionally. Women need emotional fulfillment in order to respond to a man sexually. It's a catch 22. Women willingly give sex to get what we
think is love, and men act like they love us to get some sex. Happens all the time!

Men: Why I Love You, too!

I second that emotion of the Urban Goddess! I too, am a conscientious objector to the Gender War!

I've had my share of issues with men who just don't know better. I even poke fun, on occasion. Yep, you're from Mars. So glad you're not from Pluto. You know place isn't a planet anymore! But I wouldn't have it any other way. Guys! Keep doing those things ya'll do. With the things ya'll do it with. You know?
Pheromones and testosterone. There are some healthy sisters out here that appreciate you, and love you just the way you are!

Please! Click Here to read this fabulous article "Men: Why I Love You" by Robyn Lark Wakefield. It would look like plagiarism is I wrote what I think and feel about men! Tell your friends to read it!

And for my few Mom in Apt 10b friends.. This should help explain why I suddenly - overnight.. quite literally.. went from being "The Mom in Apt 10b" to "The Goddess in Apt. 10b." I was exploring online last night. Looking for some soul food. Found all sorts of good stuff! I feel like Lisa Burke did from The Secret. It's all coming together quite beautifully, now.

I just me, and I just love you, too!

Many Blessings,


By Your Side

A sensual soulful song with a new sensual soulful video.. by Sade. I love this video. I love this song.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Turn intimate MOMENTS into MARATHONS

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Tuesday, March 2, 2010

He cried after sex

For someone like me, sexual intimacy is primarily spiritual. But I'm not sure if intimacy has always been so much about mingling of souls as it is about mingling of bodies. Even in my 40s I can get caught up in the cultural and media messages of physical attraction and sexual gratification, but I don't dare allow them to prevail or make sense for that matter. Being a single mom of a daughter I only desire to practice what I teach.

Sacred and sexual in the same motion, seems so new-agey and unrealistic. But I have a friend who told me of an experience with her now deceased husband.. when shortly before his unexpected death by heart attack (not in bed but at a red light).. he cried after they made love. They weren't newly weds, either. She said his sobbing was a bit disarming yet very profound. But all she could do was revel in the soul and soggy arms of her beloved gentle tender man. She never new him more deeply. It wasn't long before he left her to raise alone, their infant son.

It's been a few years since I've seen my friend. And back then, I considered her to be one of the most promiscuous women I've ever known. Not a judgment just an observation.. Seemingly in search of that sacred sexual experience, again.

What about this man's emotion made this experience seem so sacred, anyway? As profound as it was for her to experience, it's just as profound for me to know that it happened. I can't explain it. But I'd like to experience that as well.

Having been single for quite some time now, and not sexually active, I cannot foresee connecting with the next Mr. Right with any degree of spirituality - right off the bat. I would dive right in.. probably expecting that if he's pleasing to my heart as he is to my mind.. my soul won't care if we skip a few steps.

Forging a spiritual trust like what my friend obviously had with her husband could take a few years. The price I pay for being selective.

Want to leave him breathless?

early half of all women in the U.S. experience a decrease in their sex drive (libido) as they enter their early 40s. While there's no medical cure, there are plenty of treatment regimens including using personal lubricants and exercises that will . As a past rep who marketed and promoted romance and pleasure products at hundreds of 'those' parties, and as a student of cultural anthropology and sexology, I have learned and taught enough good stuff to help mature women discover and reach a new level of fulfillment and passion.

I'm also trained in Swedish massage, and Aromatherapy.. plus when my teen was a toddler, I dabbled in spiritual parenting and parent and child music and movement. Which is when I truly understood my own spirtuality and sacred sensuality and sexuality, even.. I like to think of myself not as an expert but a student and teacher of life - from start to finish! And I relish in most things spiritual, sensual and soulful.. and feminine and womanly..

That said.. I want to use Apt 10b as the place to share what I know and come across with sassy sexy perimenopausal women and women in their 40s . I will be offering an occasional give-a-way and feature the occasional other blogger on the subjects of beauty, romance, dating, intimacy, marriage, parenting and wellness from physical to emotional to sexual.. My goal is to just help women create great interpersonal and intimate lives and lifestyles for a lifetime... From a sassy sexy perspective!

So.... If you want to learn to ~

Leave him breathless..
Have a loving touch..
Add excitement and variety to intimate moments...
Enhance your own life..
Dance as if no one is watching..
Feel sexy again...
Look fabulous always...

Then, tell all your friends & please come again to Apt 10b!

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